Author: QueeringPsychology
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Somatic Theory Basics: What Is the Autonomic Nervous System?
I’m noticing more and more people on social media encouraging folks to listen to their intuition, to connect with their bodies, to build self-attunement, etc and the common question I see in response is “Ok but how? How do I do that?” I could get into the reasons why it can be so hard these…
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Parasocial Relationships
I was interviewed by Daric L. Cottingham for Essence about parasocial relationships. Here’s the article. I loved the questions they asked so much that I was inspired to write a whole post. What are parasocial relationships? Are they normal? Parasocial relationships are one-sided, intimate-seeming relationships that admiring fans have with public figures (celebrities, politicians, royalty,…
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Checking In – A New Chapter
Hey, long time no see! For those of y’all who are not also following me on other sites/social media apps, I had taken a writing break because life got real. After 2020 and the 1st half of 2021, I was feeling stagnant in my clinical work. Basically, I reached a plateau and realized that I…
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How to Self-Care in the Middle of a Pandemic
I’m writing this update to my intro piece on self-care because the COVID-19 pandemic, quarantines, “social distancing,” etc. (heavy on the etc.) have thrown a whole wrench into our routines, our ways of coping, and the things we used to do that made life worth living. I already wrote an update to how to make…
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Child Abuse & Neglect
Note: This piece was very hard for me to write so it might be hard for someone to read. If you start feeling upset, anxious, etc. while reading this, please take a break to love on yourself before coming back to this. If you aren’t sure how to tell when you need to take a break,…
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Pandemic Mental Health Safety Plan
A pandemic is a whole other ball game. We are dealing with social isolation, government incompetence and cruelty (at least in the US), institutional/medical racism, etc. This pandemic is adding so much extra stress into our lives. Stress isn’t a light-weight thing. Long term stress weakens our immune system, makes us physically sick, messes with…
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The Process of Change 201: The Basics of Community Accountability
This piece is another layer to my series about change: what change is, what the work of change looks like, and recognizing change in yourself and others. In Part 1, I specifically covered what the process of change generally looks like and how to give a meaningful apology. And in Part 2, I explained how how to set…
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How to Tell if This is the Right Therapist for You in 3-ish Sessions
Let’s say it how it is: it is ridiculously hard to find a decent therapist. As someone who has been a psychotherapy client before and as a therapist myself, trust and believe I fully know and understand that it’s needle and haystack-levels out there. And don’t let you have 1 or more marginalized identities and…
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Reader Request: Boundaries 202: Estrangement
This is another Reader’s Request (Thank you). Feel free to tweet or DM @Queeringpsych on Twitter or email queeringpsychology@gmail.com with any psychotherapy-related topics you would like to see me write about. I’m always open to suggestions. If you aren’t sure if something is relevant to my site, I don’t have a problem looking at the suggestion…
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The Process of Change Part 2: Taking Action and Looking to the Future
This is a Part 2 of a 2-part series about change, written using knowledge about the psychology of change so that we can all be on the same page about the actual steps of making a change in your life, what it means to do the work of change, and how to see if someone…