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What Is Socialization?
[2022 UPDATE: Here are 2 videos explaining the basics of socialization and what it looks like in the wild. Part 1 and Part 2] It’s everywhere. Every. Where. But most people aren’t aware of the effects it has on how they think, act, and what they see as possible. I see people not knowing what…
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The Psychological Impact Of The Drug War On Black Communities
This post is gonna be HEAVY, y’all. It would probably be helpful to read my Drug Use: When Is It A Problem post to get a sense of my professional stance on drug use before we get into this. If we aren’t on the same page about things like harm reduction, what makes people use drugs,…
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How to Set Boundaries
Boundaries are the limits a person can set on what they will accept and how people treat them. Knowing how to set boundaries for yourself is one of the most important life skills to learn. In an ideal situation, your parents and/or the other adults in your life showed you how to set boundaries through…
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You Probably Think This Kid Is About You Part 4
This is the 4th and final part of this 4-part parenting series. The first post covered your relationship with your partner or partners and whether it was a solid environment for raising children. The second post covered your personal feelings, thoughts, etc. around raising children, coping with stressful situations, and the importance of learning parenting skills (and ongoing…
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Polyamory 101: What is Polyamory?
Since I’m noticing more and more people interested in relationship alternatives to monogamy on social media, I decided to write about polyamory from the perspective of a relationship counselor. First, I’m going to get into what polyamory is, how it’s different from monogamy, cheating, open relationships, and swinging, and the different ways someone can be polyamorous depending on…
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You Probably Think This Kid Is About You Part 3: Looking At Expectations
This is the 3rd part of a 4-part parenting series. The first post covered your relationship with your partner or partners and whether it was a solid environment for raising children. The second post covered your personal feelings, thoughts, etc. around having/raising children, coping with stressful situations, and the importance of learning parenting skills and ongoing…
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Drug Use: When is it a Problem?
It’s amazing to me how much misinformation there is out there about drugs and substance use. Especially when there are so many people who use some kind of drug/substance every single day. I’m writing this post to explain 1)the basics of what drugs are, 2)some reasons people use them, 3)the different types of drug use, and…
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You Probably Think This Kid Is About You Part 2: Getting Personal
This is part 2 of a 4-Part series. Check out Part 1 here where I write from the point of view of a therapist in a relationship counseling situation, helping people in a romantic relationship work through the idea of having children together. In this second part, I want to focus on the individuals in the…
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What Can Mindfulness Do For You?
Mindfulness is one of those buzzwords that nonprofits, corporations, and some parts of social media just found out about. And even though it’s really popular right now, not many people seem to really know what it is or which mindfulness techniques to use in their everyday life. Most people seem to think mindfulness is just…
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You Probably Think This Kid Is About You Part 1: Is Having Kids Right For The Relationship?
“So when you having kids?” Having kids has become just one of those things people do. Graduate school. Get a job. Date. Get married. Have babies. Get a house. Die. A checkbox on the list of life. It’s taken for granted that everyone is having kids to the point that people side-eye folks who decide to…